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Chicago Tribune (CT) - SUNDAY, October 19, 1997 Edition: CHICAGOLAND FINAL Section: ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT Page: 2 Word Count: 688
Cheryl Lavin, Tribune Staff Writer.
When was the last time you had sex . . .
Lola: "I'm a 46-year-old divorced female and it's been well over 11 years since I had sex. It's very hard to meet men whom I would want to date, let alone have sex with. I don't like this situation, but I've learned to live with it. I keep busy doing other things and try not to dwell on what I'm missing. But the thing that really yanks my chain is reading in your column about married people who are also getting some on the side!"
Alan: "I'm a single male, slowly getting older and wiser, and the last time I had sex was on Nov. 10, 1996. I was fortunate and blessed to have known Carla for over three years. I was a shy and socially awkward late bloomer who thought he'd never be intimate with a woman. But Carla was a late bloomer too and patient with me. In fact, we didn't have sex until 7 1/2 months after we started dating. It was fulfilling on every level. Unfortunately, I felt inadequate and insecure and pushed her away. It's been almost a year now and what I wouldn't give to hold her in my arms. Sign me 'Chasing Carla.' "
Gretchen: "The last time I had sex was about four weeks ago! Though my husband and I are both in our 70s, once or twice a year we do get together. This happens only when we're on vacation. Something about those motels is such a turn-on! Then when we return home, it's back to our separate bedrooms, until the next vacation. I can hardly wait!!!!"
Steve: "The last time I had sex was three years ago. If I never have it again, with my wife, it will be too soon. We've been married 25 years and somewhere around year 20 she turned into a cow. I don't care if I sound like the biggest jerk in the world, but I just can't get excited about having sex with an obese woman. I love her, she's a wonderful mother and a good wife and I never want to hurt her. I just don't want to sleep with her."
Elaine: "The last time I had sex was in January 1996. I'm a reasonably attractive 42-year-old female married for 14 years. My husband's sex drive never matched mine, but when it dwindled to once or twice a year, I asked him to see a doctor. All he would have is an HIV test. Our divorce is imminent. In the meantime, I got involved with a contractor who was working on our house. He was younger and a lot more fun than my husband. We talked about everything, including sexual fantasies, preferences and past experiences. But during two pathetic attempts at sex, he was impotent. I give up!"
Sherry: "The last time I had sex was Saturday night. Our lovemaking always occurs on Saturday night. Gene, my lover of nine years, has had custody of his 10-year-old daughter for over two years. She spends Saturday night with her mother. Our lovemaking may seem regimented, but not to us. All the while I am getting dressed, my stomach has butterflies and I feel a rush just thinking about being with him. When I walk through the door, Gene kisses me and tells me he has been anxiously awaiting my arrival. And he shows it!"
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