Important note: Information in this article was accurate in 2004. The state of the art may have changed since the publication date. I and my boyfriend are together, he is HIV+ but not me . We love
each other,we do not want to depart. We did not have any sexual
practice but we did deep kissing still now we practice it. But
also, I want to have sex with him because I love him I do not want
any other person except him, but also I do not want HIV.
What shall I do?
Dear concerned reader;
I can only imagine the difficulty of your situation.
First, you should respect yourself, and your desire to remain without HIV. I do not know if you are male or female, or where you reside, or your age, but I do know that you do not want this disease.
The second thing that you should consider is that safer sex, using condoms EVERY time for vaginal or anal sex, is extremely effective at preventing the transmission of HIV. There have been studies looking at gels to put in the vagina to prevent HIV transmission. Some patients get a gel, some don't. For ethical reasons, all patients are instructed in safe sex, and on follow up clinic visits, they get more "reminders." Because of the good safe sex education, there have been too few new infections to allow comparison of those who used the gel, and those who did not. Safer sex works. You should to to an AIDS service organization, and get good, solid information on what really is "safer" sex.
Briefly, you can reduce the risk of HIV transmission to near zero; it's up to you decide if you can maintain safe sex practices 100% of the time, and if this person is right for you.
Good luck!
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